To be successful in life, you need to know how to manage fear.
And when I say successful, I mean being successful in any area of your life that you want.
Do you want a great relationship? And I mean a great relationship with the partner of your dreams where you feel loved and fulfilled everyday, and where you feel really excited about who you’re with?
Or maybe you have the desire to be healthier and fitter, have more energy and drive?
Maybe you want to be successful in your career, business or finances?
Whatever area you want to be successful in (and I say go for all of those areas of your life…that’s holistic success) you’re going to need to put what I’m about to discuss into action. You’re going to love what this will do for your life.
I get to help teach and influence millions of people around the world as one of the leading peak performance coaches on the plant, an international best-selling author, speaking in front of hundreds of thousands of people at live events, and being in front of millions of people through the media and web.
And one of the things I regularly get asked is, “Kurek, how do I get rid of my fear so that I can be successful?”
Here’s my answer: Don’t get rid of it. Amplify it.
Bet you weren’t expecting that! You see fear isn’t a good thing or a bad thing. It all comes down to what you do with your fear that determines whether it’s good or bad for you.
All successful people have fear. Everybody has doubts and insecurities. The key distinction between successful people and everybody else on the planet is that we learn to manage how we think and feel differently than the masses do.
We all go through the same stuff. Successful people just learn how to manage it. That’s the only difference.
You see, most people don’t fear failure, and that’s why they fail. They fear success.
With all the people that I’ve worked with over the years I’ve learnt that people fear success because they think people might find out that they’re not the genius that they thought they were. Or because they fear that they can’t uphold their success and then they’ll fail. People are more afraid of being successful than being a failure.
Here’s why. There’s a function of the brain where whatever it perceives to be painful, it moves away from. And whatever it perceives to be pleasurable, it moves towards.
So why are so many people struggling on the planet, and aren’t at the level of success they want to be at? Because of this brain mechanism that keeps moving them away from the “perceived” pain of success.
But see, if you had a fear of failure, instead of a fear of success, this same brain mechanism would drive you towards success, away from failure. Makes sense, right?
So the key thing here is to start amplifying your fear and get scared! I say be afraid of living an unfulfilled life. Be afraid of being stagnant. Be afraid of not achieving your goals. Be afraid of having your life just drip away until there’s nothing left of it, and be afraid of the regret that you’re going to feel of a great life that you missed out on.
If you start amplifying that fear right not, it’ll move you towards being successful. Make that decision now.
Think of the worst case scenario of what your life is going to be like if you don’t take the action towards moving towards your goals and dreams. That perceived pain will now be your thrust and your drive towards living the life you always dreamed of – being successful in any area of your life.
Picture this. You’re given the news that you only have one more year to live. You’re facing your death, and you’re going to be dead forever. How would you live this year? If that’s all the time you had left?
How would you live today if you knew it was going to be over?
Well, the truth is, your life is going to be over. I don’t know if it’s going to be this year, next year, ten years from now…who knows? Everybody that died today – people younger than us, the same age as us, older than us…everybody that died today probably wasn’t planning on it either.
So amplify your fear and use it to live the life you’ve always dreamed of. This is how you can manage how you think and feel from the masses.
You have to switch the poles of what you perceive to be pleasurable, and what you perceive to be painful.
Amplify the fear you have! Amplify the perceived pain about not changing now, and this is going to drive you towards success.
Plus remember to add massive amounts of perceived pleasure to taking the action and producing the results, and towards being that person that you want to be on the other side. Remember that when your brain links up massive amounts of pleasure to whatever it is you’re doing, it’s going to keep wanting you to move in that direction.
Remember that none of us are perfect. None of us are geniuses. None of us are calm, cool and collected all the time. The fact is, is that we all have fear, doubt and insecurities.
Use the fear of failure to force you into growth. Use it to help you to learn things, apply yourself, and operate at a different level that will lead you towards your grand dream goals.
Make the change now. Make this year the best and most fulfilling year of your life.
I hope this was of real value to you. Leave me a comment and be sure to let me know what other topics you’d like me to cover.
Have a most outstanding day!