It seems like I’m meeting more and more people everyday that are being crushed by the pressure of financial strain. Others are having relationship issues with their partner or family. And then there’s a whole other group of people who are overweight or unfit, or stressed out.
And the thing that makes it even worse for them is the feeling they have of being stuck in it.
So what’s the area of your life that you feel stuck in? Is it one of them that I’ve mentioned? Or is it something else for you?
Enough is enough! It’s time to get out of being stuck, right?
GET FED UP! Not with yourself or with someone else that you’re blaming for your condition; get fed up with the actual condition. For example, “I’m done being broke!” or “I’m done being lonely!” or “I’m done being unhealthy!”
You see, your life isn’t going to change until you get to that place where you say, “I’m done!” If you don’t get to that place, you can become complacent and simply accept the condition and learn to live with it. But once you get to that place where you’re really fed up and you’re over dealing with the condition, that’s when change starts to happen…because a decision is being made. And as soon as you make a decision, your life starts to change.
A decision is something you’re not going to back down on – it’s a clear line in the sand and a clear path forward. And the reason why most people are unhappy with some areas in their life is because most people are weak decision makers.
So how do you get stronger at making decisions? Simply by exercising the decision making muscle…which is making more decisions!
Here’s how to instigate change in your life NOW:
- Figure out what it is that you want to change. Be very specific! Write it down.
- Next, write down every bit of pain that you have by having this condition; this thing that you want to change. Create as much frustration, disappointment, let down, anger, etc. about this thing that you want to change. Write down all the times that you’ve felt bad or sad about it. What has it cost you? Feel the pain! Don’t worry; it’s short-term pain for long-term pleasure, and the reason we do this is so that the pain moves you forward.
- Once you’re feeling bad, make the very clear decision that you’re done. Say it: “I’m done!” and “I’m fed up!” and “I’ve already suffered enough pain, I’m not going to do this anymore!”
- Then, write down all the pain you’re going to feel in the future, if you don’t change this right now. What additional unhappiness will you have to live with? This should feel extra bad. Write down the worst-case scenario!
Hey, I’m just like you. I’ve been there. I’ve tried to quit numerous things and have started them back up again. And what I learnt was that during those times, I didn’t get myself fed up enough. But one day I did this process and I made the pain so ugly that my brain said “That’s it, I’m never going back! I’m fed up!”
Is there something in your life that you want to let go of so you can make room for new and better things in your life? Then try out this process – it really works!